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Jennifer, Ben and Last Names: Can a Woman/Brand Become “Mrs Affleck”?

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After 18 years of waiting, the wedding bells rang. One of the most intriguing and medial couples of the early 2000s and one of the most hopeful surprise couples after the tough years of the pandemic, Jennifer Lopez (52) and Ben Affleck (49) got married in Las Vegas last weekend. A perfect ending to a romantic comedy about reunions and second chances, one starring someone like Jennifer Lopez. Behind the petals of champagne and the selfie by J.Lo lying in bed the next morningcontent and happy with her new life came the details Jennifer Lopez herself shared in her newsletter On the JLo.

Instead of the mega wedding the couple planned in 2003, which never happened, this time they opted for something quick, simple, and intimate: “Stay around long enough and you might have the time of your life in Las Vegas at 12:30 in the morning, in the tunnel of love, with your children and the person you will spend the rest of your life with. Love is a great thing, maybe the best thing, and it’s worth waiting for. Aside from the guest list or the dresses the singer chose for the occasion, the letter ended with one final and odd detail, a new identity: “Love, Mrs. Jennifer Lynn Affleck.”

Corresponding magazine personsthat got it Access to the Clark County Clerk’s Office Marriage Records in Nevada, the names of Benjamin Geza Affleck are registered as Part 1 and Jennifer Lopez as Part 2; however in the section New nameThe singer is already appearing as Jennifer Affleck. This decision has since been criticized in particular on social networks. as some users have pointed outIt’s an odd decision for someone like Jennifer Lopez, whose name is in itself a personal brand that the artist hasn’t hesitated to decline at various stages Jenny off the block to the unmistakable J.Lo, and who has sold female empowerment and female individuality through songs like in recent years Isn’t your mom.

Despite all the criticism, the truth is that Jennifer Lopez made the most common choice in her country: in the United States, around 70% of women continue to choose their husband’s last name after marriage, according to one of the largest studies conducted in recent times years through the New York Times. Despite the fact that numbers have declined compared to previous generations, there is still a deep-rooted cultural tradition surrounding surname changing, despite being a historic time when women were neither legally nor economically responsible for retaining it their surname were punished.

As well as explained the journalist Sharon Brandwein in the magazine brides, the bible of brides-to-be in the United States, it is a patriarchal tradition to take the husband’s surname: “By common English law, the cover stated that after marriage a woman’s identity was covered by her husband. From the moment of her marriage, a woman was known as female concealed or covered woman; She and her husband essentially became one. With their identities essentially erased, the women could not own property or enter into contracts. Husbands had complete control over their wives, legally and financially.”

Times have changed and the patriarchal tradition has turned into a romance-based tradition that has the same symbolism as wearing something old, something borrowed and something blue, or that it is the bride’s father who gives it to the husband-to-be gives. Corresponding A report from the British media BBC to this topic, there are two main motivators for keeping this tradition alive in the 21st century: “The first is the persistence of patriarchal power (whether it was obvious to couples or not). The second was the ideal of good family: the feeling that the same name as the partner symbolizes connectedness and unity”.

Commitment and unity are the very two values ​​that define the Jennifer Lynn Affleck name: a statement of intent that puts an end to the narrative that J.Lo herself has dominated since her return with Ben Affleck, whom she calls the love of her life. On this second occasion, Jennifer Lopez was in charge of relaying the information before the media – who, according to the couple in numerous interviews, were the main culprits in the end of their relationship in the past due to the persecution and the excessive scrutiny they were subjected to were. The surname Affleck reflects that fourth time is the appeal for her: There is no clear record of him changing his name in any of his three previous marriages. Without a newsletter, it is not known if she was Jennifer Noa, Jennifer Judd or Jennifer Anthony at any other time in her life. However, there is evidence of a 2003 video taken from a special prime-time interview With Access Hollywood about the medial couple and this has resurfaced through social networks, where journalist Pat O’Brien, while J.Lo is cooking an omelette, asks her what her name will be after their marriage: “Jennifer Lopez,” she replies without hesitation, “but my name will be obviously be Jennifer Affleck.” Jennifer Lopez forcibly separated the work of the artist, or rather the J.Lo brand (millionaire and best-seller, including a line of facial beauty and a line of perfumes) from the woman. Jennifer Lopez continues to become the singer, actress and dancer on stage and in front of the cameras, she will be seen on the red carpets and at awards ceremonies, but privately she will be Jennifer Affleck, lovingly cherishing this small part of the relationship that almost ended in 2003 due to overexposure.

The scrutiny that his last signature on his bulletin underwent also leaves a certain macho residue: Few have considered Ben Affleck’s decision to keep his last name, as if the possibility of a Ben Lopez or B was unimaginable. Men who change their surname to that of their wives remain a rare exception.. Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck might represent that rarity, after all, they already are: a couple who, after 18 years apart and several, even some, happy marriages in between, are getting back together, more mature, wiser, and trying again. And works.

The possibility of Ben Lopez would give a twist to the patriarchal tradition. An exciting twist on Ben Affleck’s movie action. As Álex Grijelmo pointed out in a recent article in a column entitled Exactly women stripped of their names, not because a tradition is widespread does not mean that it is no longer fraught with conflict: “The machismo is not found in the language system, because casuistry destroys all theory; but in the asymmetries with which we use it. And one of them is the loss of the wife’s surname, stripped of her identity to give her that of the husband. Jennifer Lynn Affleck is free to choose her identity. Ben Affleck too. The story had a happy ending, maybe one last surprise was missing.


Source elpais.com

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